Film and TV are two of the primary reference points for people learning about sex and relationships. But Hollywood’s blueprint for what intimacy looks like is broken; leaving many of us feeling obligated to ‘run the bases’ and experience formulaic sex with the same beginning and end point every time:
THE BEGINNING
Kissing
Touch “travels down” from the chest to the genitals
Undressing
P-in-v penetration
Male orgasm
THE END
This is the Sexual Script: a step-by-step model observed and mimicked by you and me; and infused with everything the Patriarchy has to offer. Today’s most popular sexual script is heteronormative and asks you to play gendered and racialized roles. It is already in your head; and it is robbing your sex life of freedom, fluidity, and pleasure.
Today’s most popular sexual script is NOT:
Consent-centered
Queer
Trauma informed
Equitably pleasurable
Authentically human
It leaves no room for:
Checking in about HIV and STI status, birth control, and contraception
Communicating boundaries
Laughing
Snacking
Napping
Chatting
Crying
Burping, farting, and queefing
Sanitizing toys
Taking bathroom breaks
Giving and asking for feedback
Processing trauma
Experimenting
Making mistakes
Making amends
It's time to expect more, demand more, and feel exceptional in all aspects of your sex life
-----Together We Can SET FIRE TO THE SEXUAL SCRIPT-----
In this 90-minute workshop we will be delving into the limitations of the current Sexual Scripts on offer and leaving you with ACTIONABLE steps towards a fluid, free, and self-determined new draft.
We'll tackle:
The best and worst examples of sex our favorite media has on offer
Porn’s role in perpetuating harmful sexual scripts and its power to rewrite the story
Behind-the-scenes insights of an Intimacy Coordinator who creates sex scenes for film/TV
Myth-busting common excuses which keep us dutifully on-script
You will learn how to:
Discover, voice, and defend your boundaries during intimacy
Navigate partnership with someone who is clinging to a sexual script
Break out of the binaries of gender, sexuality, and domination/submission
Throw coercion, obligation, entitlement, guilt, shame, and ego OUT of the bedroom
Cook your ideal Sexual Soup: meditate, visualize, and imagine the ingredients which make sex most delicious for you and empower yourself to constantly tweak the recipe
The workshop investment is $45.
Reserve your spot here: (https://calyxaustin.as.me/sexual-script)
-----Meet your host-----
Alicia Topolnycky is an Intimacy Coordinator based in Austin, TX. Alicia's goal is to empower artists to safely and efficiently craft intimate scenes which will deepen their storytelling. She does this by bringing choreography, consent-centered practices, and dedicated support to each phase of film, TV, or stage production. Alicia is also a certified Community Health Work Instructor through the Texas Department of State Health Services, and a certified mental-health first-aider. She particularly enjoys working on projects which align with her queer and polyamorous identities, such as Rent Free (Tribeca Film Festival 2024) and Three Headed Beast (Tribeca Film Festival 2022).
https://intimacycoordinatoratx.com/
This workshop is offered in collaboration with SheHeals Haven: a group of passionate and experienced women who have been living within and working against the harms and inadequacies of the current women's health system for years; specializing in the fields of birth, fertility, sexual wellness, and pelvic care.
Join the Movement to break the spell of medical patriarchy: https://www.instagram.com/shehealshaven/